Current state of things
Jun. 2nd, 2013 09:05 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
yendiIf you follow shadesong on either Facebook or LJ, you probably know what's going on in our lives. I attempted to write a quick sum-up, but realized that would be futile; you can read the whole story here (noting that you shouldn't if reading triggery stuff is bad for you). I've been staying quiet on her various threads because A) she's better able to voice what's going on, and B) everything she's posted is something we've already talked about, so attempting to replicate my reactions there would be a combination of disingenuous and redundant.
I'm still generally keeping quiet on FB, since I primarily use FB as a way to keep in touch with high school classmates and co-workers, none of whom are people I'm close enough to to expect to understand much about our lives*. I think there's exactly two ex-coworkers on my LJ friends list, and that's only if you count the fact thatmuse0fire and I worked for the Emory bookstore at the same time. But I wanted to post here, because I know that silence can sometimes confuse people.
Key things to know: I'm here supporting 'song, and agree with everything she's said. Yes, things are tough right now (emotionally and financially), but we're getting through it. Elayna is handling things remarkably well, and having both a friend's house to go to the one time things got ugly while she was around, and her prom/awards night/graduation to focus on has probably been a huge help. That upcoming graduation (along with the imminent arrival of a ton of relatives) is also helping nicely, as is a visit frommichaeldthomas. We had some great support over the last few days in visits from emilytheslayer, lynxreign, slipjig, and sairaali (who also made us some lovely comfort food).
If I owe you an email, though, don't be surprised if I fall even more behind than I usually do (and considering my perpetual state of Inbox 500, that speaks volumes). I've gotten some lovely emails/FB messages, and I do appreciate them; that said, I'm somewhat stretched in terms of ability to handle stuff right now, and needless to say, I'm trying to focus on stuff at home (and then stuff at work, where it probably won't surprise folks to learn I'm a bit behind). Given how inconsistent my LJ posting has been recently, I'm not sure it'll make a huge difference one way or the other, but at this point, I expect my content will remain about as ephemeral (here and on FB) as it's been in recent weeks/months/years. That said, if you need to reach me, any of the usual channels (email/FB/LJ/Twitter) work; just be patient over my lack of responsiveness.
Sidenote: By utter coincidence, the shirt I grabbed this morning on my way out the door to Starbucks was the BARCC Walk for Change one.
tl;dr: I love my wife, and am doing whatever it takes to support her. Anything that's not a part of that might be deprioritized in the near future.
*There are actually a few co-workers I could see being really good friends with, if I were less introverted and socially awkward; I work in a place filled with some awesome people (I've got co-workers who go to Gen Con, Arisia, and Pennsic).
shadesong on either Facebook or LJ, you probably know what's going on in our lives. I attempted to write a quick sum-up, but realized that would be futile; you can read the whole story here (noting that you shouldn't if reading triggery stuff is bad for you). I've been staying quiet on her various threads because A) she's better able to voice what's going on, and B) everything she's posted is something we've already talked about, so attempting to replicate my reactions there would be a combination of disingenuous and redundant.I'm still generally keeping quiet on FB, since I primarily use FB as a way to keep in touch with high school classmates and co-workers, none of whom are people I'm close enough to to expect to understand much about our lives*. I think there's exactly two ex-coworkers on my LJ friends list, and that's only if you count the fact that
muse0fire and I worked for the Emory bookstore at the same time. But I wanted to post here, because I know that silence can sometimes confuse people.Key things to know: I'm here supporting 'song, and agree with everything she's said. Yes, things are tough right now (emotionally and financially), but we're getting through it. Elayna is handling things remarkably well, and having both a friend's house to go to the one time things got ugly while she was around, and her prom/awards night/graduation to focus on has probably been a huge help. That upcoming graduation (along with the imminent arrival of a ton of relatives) is also helping nicely, as is a visit from
michaeldthomas. We had some great support over the last few days in visits from emilytheslayer, lynxreign, slipjig, and sairaali (who also made us some lovely comfort food).If I owe you an email, though, don't be surprised if I fall even more behind than I usually do (and considering my perpetual state of Inbox 500, that speaks volumes). I've gotten some lovely emails/FB messages, and I do appreciate them; that said, I'm somewhat stretched in terms of ability to handle stuff right now, and needless to say, I'm trying to focus on stuff at home (and then stuff at work, where it probably won't surprise folks to learn I'm a bit behind). Given how inconsistent my LJ posting has been recently, I'm not sure it'll make a huge difference one way or the other, but at this point, I expect my content will remain about as ephemeral (here and on FB) as it's been in recent weeks/months/years. That said, if you need to reach me, any of the usual channels (email/FB/LJ/Twitter) work; just be patient over my lack of responsiveness.
Sidenote: By utter coincidence, the shirt I grabbed this morning on my way out the door to Starbucks was the BARCC Walk for Change one.
tl;dr: I love my wife, and am doing whatever it takes to support her. Anything that's not a part of that might be deprioritized in the near future.
*There are actually a few co-workers I could see being really good friends with, if I were less introverted and socially awkward; I work in a place filled with some awesome people (I've got co-workers who go to Gen Con, Arisia, and Pennsic).
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Date: 2013-06-02 11:05 pm (UTC)(For what it's worth, while I do my damndest to keep my real name online life separate and professional, there is nothing you need to expect I don't understand here. I think we dance in deeply, deeply overlapping circles, except my fannishness tends to more toward the pseudonymous and ficcish.)
Also, my thoughts are with y'all, and I hope that ... the best that can possibly happen happens, whatever that may be. Take care of yourselves.
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Date: 2013-06-03 06:29 pm (UTC)And thanks for your wishes. "The best that can possibly happen" is what we're hoping for, too, whatever it is.