Quick note, post-Arisia

[yendi]

I am both introverted and shy. I'm also dealing with a particularly stressful time of the year, work-wise. This means that cons, although wonderful in many ways, are often a wee bit overwhelming for me, and my ability to deal with humans is often pushed to its limits. So if I met you (or ran into you again) and I did not seem talkative, it was not because I found you uninteresting or annoying, and it was not because I'm an arrogant asshole (which isn't to say I'm not an asshole, but I promise you that arrogance is quite likely the least of my sins).

Related: I also am one of the world's worst people at remembering names and faces. I tend to remember people based on clothing (good for very short periods of time) and hair (good for slightly longer periods) unless they're incredibly distinctive (like having a weasel with a mullet permanently embedded in their cheek), or I know them really well and/or see them often enough to remember more details. So if you think I was ignoring you at Arisia, or if I seemed to blank on you until I stared at your badge, that's why.

Comments

[emilytheslayer.livejournal.com]

*makes note to self to have mullet-weasel taken out of cheek, so Adam will not recognize me. Then I STRIKE! Crap! Forgot to keep the internal monologue internal again!*

Ahem! Nothing!

[jasra]

It was nice to see you in passing more than once at the con and I was glad that you were less stressed the second time I saw you!

[robyn-ma.livejournal.com]

You don't remember meeting me there, do you?

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...Well, actually that's because I wasn't there. HA. PSYCH.

[kradical.livejournal.com]

This, of course, leads me to ask how many people you know with mulleted weasels permanently embedded in their cheeks................

[grntserendipity.livejournal.com]

I completely understand (I'm in University Housing and I run into this all the time at conferences, which is really bad for me career-wise.) You're the first person I've met that does cons and is shy/introverted. We should talk, I'm sure you have great strategies for handling them! (Or if you are busy, that's cool too.)

[yendi]

Well, sometimes only I can see the weasels.

[kradical.livejournal.com]

I've had days like that.......................

[yendi]

My strategy generally involves putting on a good game face for an hour, then running away in terror. I do think there are a lot of shy folks and introverts at cons (probably fewer who are both, of course).

I'm not sure I have anything more complex, though. I just try to find someone I can feel comfortable around for those times I'm forced into social situations. It's easier at a con than at professional conferences, though (speaking from experience here).

[cissa.livejournal.com]

I, too, am both shy and introverted. This has much to do with why I have yet to attend a con...

[liamstliam.livejournal.com]

I honestly didn't notice anything strange, but I do now know you that well yet.