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[yendi]

So, while were were partying at the pool last night, Elayna called, and Nicki handed the phone to me. After chatting for a minute (Elayna is not the most phone-savvy person), Fern, Elayna's grandma, came on the phone (they were just coming back from the movies). After realizing it was me, she asked to speak to shadesong, so I went to the pool and handed her the phone. Turned out all she wanted was to know if it was okay to take Elayna to get some ice cream.

It's a minor little thing. But it irks like crazy. I've been Elayna's father figure for a year; Elayna looks to me for answers to all her "can I do this" questions, and I've been doing as much for her as any "real" father (including bathing, cooking, etc). And yet I'm still not accepted as being anything more than shadesong's boyfriend by them. And they're about to have Elayna for the next seven weeks.

I know things are getting better -- they apparantly didn't react in total shock this morning when Elayna said, "Adam's not family. Yet." Or when 'song mentioned to her mom that Elayna wanted us to be married so she could finally be Elayna Lipkin. But it still worries the piss out of me.

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[technomom]

I know it's hard. It bugs me too, with regards to sambear's kids. And my parents don't really treat him like one of Katie's parent's, either, though they're getting better. We're not married either. Maybe being married will make it different. And maybe only time will.